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Sunday, 7 July 2013

TOUCHING! The Untold Story of Zainab, @ZainabAO_ ’s Death and the Hidden Lessons for us all!

Zainab Ayoka Adegoroye Omolabi
                                                                                        

News of the death of @ZainabAO_, full name and pet names, Zainab Ayoka Adegoroye Omobola Kimberly Omolabi took over twitter-Nigeria on Thursday morning, July 4th, 2013…and then the rumours started!
She was rumoured to have faked her own death for attention by friends who believed  “... She can be the craziest bitch on earth and all that. But Zainab is strong! Emotionally and all... Plus she can very well pull a scam like this! She's cray! .... I hope this is just one of those scams”.

Someone else who claimed to be her biological sister also said she died of sickness and not poisoned
as was widely spread.

Another close friend yet again claimed to have watched a video recording of the death in her brother‘s phone where Zainab was struggling to breathe at the hospital before her death.

But a very reliable source has refuted most of the rumours, saying “Zainab never had a biological sister, she only had a brother and her brother doesn't have a video coverage of that scene because he wasn’t even at the hospital prior to her death”. Though  there was a widely-circulated picture of her taken after her death, her tweets confirmed that she had a sister who had died earlier and a surviving younger brother.


Zainab was a 17 year old from a wealthy family who seemed to have strings of friends, all of who testified she was a jovial, vibrant person who cared for people even if they didn't even care for her; filtered everything negative, listened to only the positive and brought joy to everyone one she came across. They all termed her a strong-willed, unique and perfectly amazing person, the best. 

She won several awards in her school days and was the prom queen last year when she finished from her secondary school and was supposed to go to Canada for further studies but she didn't pass the entrance exams so she wrote an A levels exam to process a school in Dubai come August. She got her A level results on that fateful Wednesday – 3 As, 2 Bs, and 2 Es, but was it good enough for the expectations of the parents? Only close friends and family have answers to that question!

On that fateful Wednesday, reliable sources said she attended the graduation ceremony of her cousin, got back home and discussed the A level results with her mum since the dad was not home, then went upstairs. The brother went upstairs few minutes after her to find that she has drank up the content of a full bottle of rodenticide for household use then quickly rushed downstairs to call for help. 

She gushed out a lot of blood afterwards and was promptly rushed to the hospital. When the blood stopped gushing, she requested to see her brother who was home. By that time she had lost so much blood and, sadly, never got to see her brother before her eventual death.

 But almost all her friends argued that this could not have been the case because Zainab loved life too much and so was not the kind of person to ever think of taking her own life under any circumstance. And maybe, just maybe, we will all never know the real truth and the best we can do is just hold the memories we had of her dearly and close to our hearts!

Now, let’s avoid the blame-game so as not to add to a terribly painful situation for friends and family who are still mourning a dear one and generally consider the hidden lessons.

The normal ups and downs of life mean that everyone feels sad or has "the blues" from time to time. Many people use the word “depression” to explain these kinds of feelings, but depression is much more than just sadness. Depression, which is a major risk factor for suicide, is a loaded word in our culture. Many associate it, however wrongly, with a sign of weakness and excessive emotion.

Dear parents, yes, the teen years are tough, but most teens balance the requisite angst with good friendships from their parents. How often do parents confuse mental, emotional and psychological pressure with discipline; have abnormally high expectations from their children; threaten them; or even unnecessarily compare them to their friend’s children thereby pushing the children to the edge?  How often do they confuse their children’s need to be loved, appreciated, shown real affection with monetary favours and material provision, thinking it is enough? How many parents really see through the children’s excitement at the promised Disneyland trip, to the hidden need to share their innermost thoughts and be listened to. Too many questions as I gasp for air!

See Screen grabs of some of her tweet below:

Her last tweet before her death

 






May Allah grant her Aljannah Firdaus

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  3. i feel pity for those who commit suicide.. not cause of the pain they leave on earth but for the pain they are gonna face..

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  4. get your facts right bro, she was 16 not 17

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  6. Please take this down ! I was a close friend of hers and this is NOT the cause . That story is utter and complete bullshit . With so much inconsistencies . Please shuttup and take that down and have some respect for the deceased instead of twisting stories to get more views on your stupid blog .
    No 1) A level results do not even come out till august
    No 2) Zainab wasn't even doing a levels.
    No 3 ) three subjects are offered in a levels not 7
    No 4 ) she didn't die on wednesday .
    No 5 ) you know nothing about her family or personal life to think you have the 'untold story' . Untold story my ass.
    No 6 ) a couple of tweets

    So I think you and your stupid reliable source should find some other thing to do with your time that putting out false stories of peoples deaths . This is so appaling .

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  7. Erm btw the only reason the violence was in Arinze's tweet was because she used to hit him jokinly and btw results are out tomorrow. Don't try this again.

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  14. Its none of your business about her death.please just let her rest in peace before you face the wrath of Allah.

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    1. Why would y'all have to lie because you don't want to believe what you know..She commited suicide...She made a grave mistake, a lesson to us all.......Oooooooh what a waste.
      You are not Allah, let Allah think for Himself....

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    2. Why is it none of her business, perhaps you had something to do with it.

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  15. You've prolly gotten our attention now. Get this page off this site now.. She's dead we all know this and we've moved on from there pls don't bring up baseless fact on this issue because you don't know anything bout her &the cause of her death.

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    1. Pls evn if u r rite u shld pls allow her rest for christ sake d deed has bn done,a grave mistake has bn made let try nd console d parent nd not dwell on the past, remember we r nt God bt human nd neither does any1 kn wat mistake he or she will mk in d nearest future,pls buy some senses nd mk it common by giving er sm respect,she died out of pain nd depression pls gv sm rest if dirs any such wrd in ur dic. No offence taken jus an advise.

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  17. I have this same problem. Since I was little, i always wanted to be hurt. I have had psychological issues and even negative thoughts. I have a very low self esteem. Its a very difficult things for me and I just hope it does not follow me into the future. If i weren't a christian, i would have been dead by now.

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    1. Dear, please talk to somebody and if possible, get some professional help. And thank God you're a Christian , you could even talk to your pastor and pray about it. Whatever works, just be safe.

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  18. Dont post bad this about the dead. Get your facts straight before you post anything. The results are not even out and she didnt do a'levels. Please let her rest in peace

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  19. Ders no point lying she actually did Alevels nd the result came out on tuesday nd she also poisoned herself on that very nite she died dats d fact bt I cn only pray fr her soul nd leave d rest 2 God .............. Pls remove dis blog fr d sake of d beautiful memory many of us hold of her as a friend,family and colleague.

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    1. God bless you for saying the truth! I wish I know who you are. God knows I didn't set out to disrespect her memory with this post and I never said any disrespectful thing about her because all her friends and family thinks she was a wonderful person. I actually didn't want anyone to enjoy reading this post but for people to see her pains,how well she soldiered on, and ultimately to let others in the same situation know that ending up same way would cause lots of pains to friends, family, and loved ones.

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  20. shut the fuck up. You're just after attention and that's bullshit. what pains??? who told you she was in pain? You know nothing about her or what even made her do what she did. Only God knows so think before saying utter nonsense.

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    1. Whoever you are, I think you're the attention seeker. Do people who are not in pains commit suicide in your village out of joy? Tell us wht you know then because until I read this article I heard she committed suicide when her step mum finished beating her because she found that she had HIV. Otunba

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  21. For your information, she actually didn't do a-levels. We all were classmates so trust me, we know. Our results just came out two days ago so GET YOUR FACTS RIGHT

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  22. Youre actually just a shithead and guess where youre going ? HELL BITCH.

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  23. Dont know how you'd be lying about dead people , just know her spirit is coming for you better go and take this thing down before something really bad happens too you because i would find you and youre just a pussy thats why you would delete this cmment let the world see it asshole.

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    1. Nothing here is a lie so do not come here and threaten an innocent person who gave said the truth about Zazi's death. Only we family members knw about some of the things written here. Take your insults, lies& depressed mind somewhere& stop pretending you know a thing about my cousin. This article should mk her rest in peace& unless u were the one that murdered her, you should rest too. Sophie

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  24. With all the comments and the information on this blog, I will make some assumptions. Don't forget they are assumptions. I think there is still a missing piece in this puzzle, firstly the whole suicide story didn't spring from nowhere. It's either she really committed suicide, or her family/ stepmom contributed to her death. This is the first time, I've heard of someone who died at home, yet there is no definite story of how she died. And to know the family or her stepmom haven't till date stepped out with the true story, I will say their hiding something, and her step mom is trying to cover up the part she played in Zainab's death, which is why she released the whole suicide story. Let's be quite frank, stepmom's are not known to have the best reputation. RIP Zainab

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    1. Guess, time will tell and either confirm your assumptions or debunk them. May her soul continue to rest in peace.

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  25. This is bullshit you asshole you know nothing about her so fucking take this fucking trash down now
    you are a liar indeed and this is a whole bunch of trash talk don't write what you do not know

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